21-Year-Old Son Comes Home Late, Mom Calls Son's Boss, Son Calls Mom Out

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    Font - AITA For Calling My Son's Boss? I'm a widow living with my son Jason (21) in an apartment. He works a day job from 8am to 2pm. Lately he's been having problems with his car breaking down for several reasons. He is planning on getting it fixed at the end of this month. So the situation took place yesterday. When Jason was at work and didn't come home til 5. He's usually home at 2:30pm. I called him several times starting from 2:30pm but got no response. I tried every 10 minutes but he didn
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    Font - Jason came home, stayed quiet when eating his meal and pretty much ignored my questions about why he didn't bother to text back and ease my worried, racing mind. He looked at me then told me he's planning on moving out soon. I was taken aback. I don't pressure him to pay rent or take his time to help with anything. I asked why and he blew up suddenly saying he was not a kid and that I should've never called his boss and made a fool of him like that just because he was 2 hrs or so late for
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    Font - mr_lakeshow • 21h YTA, i'm guessing this story from your son's perspective is a little different, with more stories of you being overbearing. It's understandable to be concerned about your son but maybe wait on sounding the alarm until it's been a little longer than 2 hours. If my mom called my phone every 10 minutes, called my coworker and my boss because I got stuck at work for a few extra hours i'd be extremely annoyed. O 6 Reply ↑ 1.4k 3 ...
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    Font - DisneyAddict2021 · 21h Certified Proctologist [21] YTA. Your son spelled everything out for you, yet you still don't get it. I understand worrying, but calling his coworker and boss was over top. You are treating him like a little kid and embarrassing him in front of his boss because "his mommy was calling to check on him." My goodness. What did parents do in the time before cellphones?? G Reply 928 ...
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    Font - misosoup6969 · 21h YTA. Calling/texting a couple of times is fine, but every 10 minutes? Then calling a coworker and his boss? That's quite excessive and probably won't help him out at work Honestly, it's probably time for him to move out if he can afford it. G Reply 1 459 3
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    Font - jmgolden33 · 21h Professor Emeritass [84] YTA Not even two hours had elapsed and you were panicking - in the middle of the afternoon (maybe it'd make more sense if it was 4am). It's nice that you care about your son, but it sounds like you need to give him some more space and autonomy. G Reply 515 +
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    Font - McWhacker · 21h Partassipant [1] YTA. It sounds like he's sorta on the money here. If he's at work, he's probably busy. You shouldn't expect a response every time you get a message, most work places have a no cellphone policy anyways. It sounds like he probably has many other examples of why he feels he has no freedom as a 21 year old which is why he wants to move out. 6 Reply 1 3.6k 3 ...
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    Handwriting - SirBellwater · 21h Partassipant [1] Yeah, YTA. He's an adult, not a child just because you cannot reach someone immediately does not mean they are dead, you are being paranoid G Reply 4 274 3 ...
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    Font - anchovie_macncheese · 21h Craptain [177] ΥΤΑ. You are suffocating your son. Of course he wants to move out- he can't breath with you around. I understand you were worried, but calling every 10 minutes for hours? You couldn't even give him a little space and trust him enough to get back to you? Your son is right, that behavior is on you, and despite your good intentions, nobody needs to deal with it. G Reply t 138 ... +
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    Font - AsharManjhi · 21h Partassipant [1] YTA... you are trying to control his life... it was bound to blow up some time. Calling his boss just to know where he was a bad move and you know it. You just subjected him to be made fun of at work for your own paranoia. Your son's decision to move out is absolutely justifiable. G Reply 1 97 3 ...
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    Rectangle - YouretheAH · 21h Partassipant [3] YTA, you're going to push him further away from you. Stop. G Reply 1 32 3 .. +
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    Rectangle - Otherwise-Drama-8586 · 20h YTA. Calling him every 10 mins is excessive, and smacks of being dependent on him. You embarrassed him. And you probably should pressure him for rent and time because he isn't gonna know how to sort that out by himself when he moves out. G Reply 1 24 3 ...
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    Font - StAlvis · 17h Prime Ministurd [439] YTA I mean he could've been involved in an accident for all I know. And what if he were? You're presumably not a doctor nor an EMT. Wanting to know things is not the same as needing to know them. G Reply 4 13 3 ...
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    Font - PrincessOfPomade · 17h YTA. Now he's going to move out and you'll never know where he is. G Reply ...
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    Font - RoseGoldTae · 16h Sadly YTA. I understand the worry but as someone also in my early 20s I would feel beyond embarrassed if my mother called my coworkers or boss. I could understand if much later in the night you never heard from again or even the next day since there is a lot of cause for concern. But an adult being a couple of hours late is not nearly enough to call their boss over. As an adult doesn't need to keep you constantly in touch with his schedule or any updates. (He could have
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    Font - InsertDramaHere · 15h YTA. I get being worried, but: A. He is an adult B. He doesn't need to check in with you for his whereabouts and how he spends his time. C. Calling his friend he works with was overboard. D. Calling his boss because your 21 year old baby boy was beyond overstepping. O 6 Reply ↑ 2 3 ...
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    Font - mrxsdcuqr7x284k6 · 13h YTA, but not for worrying about your son. YTA because you have not communicated with him to set expectations for how you communicate with each other. Sit him down, apologize, and ask if he'd be willing to send you a text when he's going to be home late so you don't worry. That's a very reasonable request and if he's unwilling then what he really wants is independence and it's time to move out. I'm surprised at so many "He's an adult so he doesn't have to tell you an
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    Font - 2sACouple3sAMurder · 12h He could've been involved in an accident for all I know This can still happen 10 years from now. But I assume you wouldn't be calling his boss every time you don't hear from him when he's 31. YTA G Reply ...
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    Handwriting - Elfich47 · 11h Colo-rectal Surgeon [46] YTA - He didn't want to pick up the phone and you didn't get the hint. Calling his boss endangers his job. How long have you been smothering him like this? G Reply 1 2 3
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    Font - pnutbuttercups56 · 20h Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] YTA. I think you've been hovering around him and you haven't noticed. I understand that he gets off work at 2pm and he didn't pick up but he is working and many jobs don't let you answer your phone while working. That may be the case for him and instead of working around the rule to respond he just didn't respond. Calling every 10 minutes is a lot. Unless you had specific plans it's okay that he didn't update you. He probably feels like he h

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